These are true facts of problem faced by my friend.

1. Girls insist whole family to go for satsang with her but do not accept that instead of joining them with RSSB, she can join and pray their guru.
2. Whole week they go to office and food is prepared by mother in law but on sunday when they think she will help, she herself take breakfast in early morning and went for satsang.
3. They do not take or think to take any permission from any one in home but just inform few seconds before going that she is going to satsang.
4. They just went to take rest after reaching home from office and wake up late in morning.
5. But when they have to go for bhandara they get up at 5 am
6. When on leave she just read books but do not care about her duties at home.
7. She has no love and affection with any one and every time ask we have to die on day.
8. Her parents also do not love him as son in law much.
He has realised that they all have lost the aatachement which is must in living human life in a society. If we will love our family memebers then how we can live long with them. And how we will feel pain when they will get wounded.


Can't write much about my friend's life problems but he said his life has been ruined.
No one taught them that she should first perform her duties in in-laws which is the right way to go on GOD realization path.
He himself has gone on various Bhandaras and sunday satsang with her and himself realized that in not even a single satsang no one advised that respect your elder, perform your duties and every one just saying attach yourself with guru. If that is the right thing then they should not marry and ruin other life but go to Beas, worship god and do seva.
But if you have to live in this world then real thing is to remember god by living as a part of this world and loving every creature made by him on this world.
First Love your family then only you can love others. True that love to guru as he will provide you way to reach to god but love also the family who provide you that atmosphere to remember GOD.

We are not going to beas to take moral values, moral values are given to us by our family members and by teachers, we go there to know about us nd what inside us from which we r not aware nd how can we get moksha.

Welfare of the society/mankind is above even GOD. So one's concerns for the family can not be ignored under any religious beliefs, what so ever. Nor such teachings are given by any Religious GURU. This definitely requires cool thought proccess for ever lasting peace instead of buying nothing but stress for all around us. In fact many of misbeliefs are not through any GURU/Master but arise due to endless miss-interpretations, of teachings, by SATSANGIS themselves at large.

Kyo majak karte hai ye log. Ye jahan ye samajhne jate hai ki moksha kaise milega. Pehle ye to samajhe ki ye moksha ka karenge kya?
Hum log sanatan dharam ko chod kar, baba g ki sharan le lete hai. Vo kehte hai murty puja mat karo or hum mandir jana chod dete hai. Par vo jo kehte hai ki vo umhe janmo ke chakar se chuda denge to us bat par vishas kar lete hai.
Kya kabhi kisi ne ye dekha hai ki koi mar ke vapas aaya hai ya nahi? Kya kisi ko pata hai ki maut ke bad hota kya hai. Hum sirf ek vishwas par chal rahe hai ki jise humne apna guru mana hai, vo humse juth nahi kahega, hamesha sach hi kahega kyoki use humari khayal hai, kyoki humuski sharan me aaye hai.
Agar itna vishwas hai guru par or kehte ho ki sab kuch baba g hi karenge to ye kyo nahi hota hai ki, vo jab kehte hai ki 10% time or paise satsang ko de, to kahe ki baki samay me kuch apne parivar ko bhi de, satsang aa kar sewa tab kare, agar ghar me mata pita ki sewa kar aaye ho, logo ko ye bhi bataye ki jo 10% of income portion hai, vo kaise logo ki welfare me lag raha hai.
Insan jo bhi kuch karta hai vo usko soch samajh kar karna chahiye. Yadi apko gyat ho, to MOKSH, DHARAM, ARTH or KAAM ke bad ata hai, or DHARM means apni responsibilities ko purn rup se pura karna.
Vo kiye bina moksh nahi milta hai, ye dhyan bhi to hona chahiye na g.

SUNTA KISI KI KAUN HAI KISE SUNAEN KAUN! It is so beacuse SATSANGIS are definitely conveying their stress through this forum despite the fact that it is being repeatedly pointed out that they should not address their pain to BABAJI through this forum because he or any of RSSB represntative does not view the contents of these discusions which remain inconclusive in absence of judgment of some authority over contradictory or damaging views expressed by anyone.

In the instant topic of discussion, let it be other way that Radha Soami GIRL or BOY should not marry a Non Radha Saomi boy or girl. This is because it is Radha Soami people, who find it difficult to adjust or live with non Radha Soami spouse because of their ego and misgivings of teachings due to vital communication gaps arising on account of different speakers, other than BABAJI himself, spreading teachings quite in different manner, in various SATSANG centers worldwide. As otherwise also, norms of RSSB, to undertake meditation daily for minimum two and half hours in addition to time spent by them for KAAR SEWA as also for attending SATSANGS, are quite impracticable for any family as also for doing justice with job/carrear and kids in the house. All these strict norms are not known to any nonsatsangi, before marriage, and everyone takes their religious belief as merit not knowing impact of such impracticable norms prescribed by RSSB irrespective of one’s young age or carrear ladder. I know many SATSANGIS, who opted to forego their carrear uplift due to their such reservations. In fact Hindu Religion, earmarking age of beyond 75 years for SANYAS ASHRAM, appears to be a logical approach. It is not understood as to how these teachings, about meditation and donation requirement, can be taken care of at young age/on initial caariear stages, without affecting day-to-day life of any satsangi’s family. This is the only reason that it becomes difficult to find peace in many satsangi families mainly where husband and wife both are in job and have to look after their children to make them intelligent citizen of a country.
On visiting the RADHA SOAMI Discussion Forum, it is observed that most of the topics/questions, raised therein, relate to stress in many RADHASOAMI families because of these two factors relating to RSSB teachings about donation and meditation apart from KAAR SEWA and SATSANGS by ignoring even basic requirement of time and money for family/kids.

While treating a patient, a doctor asked one SATSANGI to suspend meditation for at least six months when the discipleas conveyed his reservations and fears to accept doctor's advice. The doctor asked the disciple as if he cpold tell him the target/achievemnet which he would miss if he held up the meditation for six months or even more.The disciple/patient could not answer doctor's question except showing fears about wrath of his BABAJI. In fact such fears have never been conveyed in his SATSANGS by BABAJI but do exist among SATSANGIS since are wide spread in this manner by ------------.

Nearness and service to mankind can not be overtaken by any other source to be near to GOD!

This reminds me a song of CHITRLEKHA movie in which MEENA KUMARI sings a song addressed to ASHOK KUMAR (A saint in the movie), “ SANSAAR SE BHAGE PHIRTE HO BHAGWAAN KO TUM KYA PAAOGE” In this move an attempt has been made to differentiate between the good KARMAS with bad ones.
Accordingly the best option relevant to the present topic would be that RADHA SOAMI disciples should not marry at all and instead lead a bachelor life so as not to affect others’ lives at all. Else instead of purifying their souls, they are bound to load their souls with lot of burden having been caused due to pain given by them to all their relatives, including parents, spouse and kids as also their career if employed in a job related to benefit of mankind or the nation.

By now it is not in dispute that RSSB GURUS were born in SIKH families and GURU CHARAN SINGH became RSSB guru at the age of 35, Present GURU HURINDER SINGH DHILON at 36 and Guru JAIMAL SINGH at 38.

Going back to SIKH History, following details of ten SIKH GURUS are available on the internet:-

SIKH GURUS with their Period * Age at the time when they became GURU & ** Age at the time of death.

1. Guru Nanak - Guru from 1469 to 1539 *30 **70
Oct. 20,1469
2. Guru Angad - Guru from 1539 to 1552 *35 **48

3. Guru Amar Das - Guru from 1552 to 1574 *73 **95

4. Guru Ram Das - Guru from 1574 to 1581 *40 **47

5. Guru Arjan Dev - Guru from 1581 to 1606 *18 **43

6. Guru Har Gobind - Guru from 1606 to 1644 *11 **49

7. Guru Har Rai - Guru from 1644 to 1661 *14 **31

8. Guru Har Krishan -Guru from 1661 to 1664 *05**08

9. Guru Tegh Bahadur -Guru from 1665 to 1675 *44**54

10.Guru Gobind Singh -Guru from 1675 to 1708 *09**42


From above details, it is clear that five out of ten SIKH GURUS were nominated at the age between 5 years to 18 years. Even one out of these five died at the age of 8 years.
From this History, it is quite clear that there has been no age bar for nomination of any GURU. Whereas, RSSB has laid down age bar for NAAM DAAN on the basis of some principle/philosophy, best known to them.