As sallamu alikum, my dad has change his religion from being Muslim now to a Christian, at first i was sad, but as time progres i realized that he actually hates Islam, this made me angry, i try ed to convince him by giving him books video tapes but nothing seems to work, i have finally accepted the fact that he will not change his mind, so my questions is what should i do.
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Hi there.
When some thing happens,like in this case, "a change",from what ever to what ever, the main point,I think, lies with the reason (why) and the way it happened (how). The "why" and the "how" define "what" (happened), I think.
In this light, my first advice to you will be to try first to understand the situation as best as you can, considering all aspects, by been a bit more compassionate.
From my understanding of the God's Religion,I have learned that we must be as much helpful as we can and whenever we can (especially with the family) , but we must be not excessive even when it comes to a well intended help.
It is explained that trying to help when you are not asked to (for), has it's limits.
Overdoing it, breaking these limits, it will put the one in the position of the infringing and conditioning of the free-will of the other.
Generally in such cases the reaction (counter-reaction), which is unavoidable, it will be by the same means, by the infringement and conditioning of the free-will from the other side to the helper.
And this will be the very reason to start a cracking, severing and the breaking of the link between the parties concerned ( in this case you and your father, your dad).
You have to be very careful and make sure you do not over do it and break the limits.
Koran does instruct and aid towards the compassion, especially with the family.
One must always be polite, compassionate, attending and loving to his parents.Must try not to raise the tone of his voice no matter what.One must honer his parents.
In this light I wold say that you make the most to understand the situation through compassion and try not to be judgmental.
Also make sure that your father,your dad knows that you,his son,are still there as ever,to attend help regardless of the situation,and without strings attached and whenever asked for.
Then the rest is up to your dad, I think.
Try not to push it. does not help.
Please you have to understand, that you do not capitalize on what I am saying. You have to think for your self and in the end you have to make your own independent decision.
Beside I may have misunderstand the situation.
hope this be of some help.
Cheers good luck.
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Wa laykum salaam:
Here is an answer straight from our Qur'an:
2:256 (1) There is to be no difficulty in the Standard. (2) Certainly, the conscious realization (or understanding) of the temptation (seducement; seduction; allurement) was apparent. (3) Therefore, whoever rejects the tyranny [(طغوت tağut) the false gods] and believes in Allāh, (4) then certainly he should grasp the strong handle. (5) There are no breaks [Lit.: cracks without separation(s)] for it. (6) Allāh is Unlimited Hearer, Omniscient.
[In other words, what's there to argue about? It's apparent that whoever forsakes false religion, polytheism like all current forms of Christianity are for example, and truly believes in God, the Omniscient Hearer, should know to take hold of the strong and everlasting handle of the Word of God.]
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If you wish to check my translation here it is in Arabic:
لَآ إِكۡرَاهَ فِى ٱلدِّينِۖ قَد تَّبَيَّنَ ٱلرُّشۡدُ مِنَ ٱلۡغَىِّۚ فَمَن يَكۡفُرۡ بِٱلطَّـٰغُوتِ وَيُؤۡمِنۢ بِٱللَّهِ فَقَدِ ٱسۡتَمۡسَكَ بِٱلۡعُرۡوَةِ ٱلۡوُثۡقَىٰ لَا ٱنفِصَامَ لَهَاۗ وَٱللَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ (٢٥٦)
(1) .256 Lā ikrāha [√krh if’āla, acc., m., impf. act., Stem IV] fīd-dīni (2) qad tabayyana [√byn tafa’’ala, 3rd, m., sing., perf. act., Stem V] r-ruşdu [√rşd] mina l-ğayyi (3) fa-man yakfur biţ-ţāğūti wa yu’min billāhi (4) fa qadi istamsaka [√msk istaf’ala, 3rd, m., sing., perf. act., Stem X] bil-‘urwati [√’rw] l-wuŧqā (5) lā infiṣāma [√fṣm infi’āla, acc., m., Stem VII] la-hā (10) wa llāhu samī’un ‘alīmun
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From an Islamic perspective then, don't worry about it. No one is supposed to shove religion down another person's throat, especially if they want to be faithful to God. When or if he ever wants to learn true Islam (Lit.: "Surrender!" or "Be safe!" or, as commonly translated, "Submit!"), teach him what he wants to know and leave it at that, but remember that mankind cannot "join" God's religion, but mankind is commanded to "islam" [if'al, an imperative of the root S-L-M, to submit, to be saved or safe, to be at or make peace] to the standards of God, meaning that we have a choice to obey God by embracing His Standards like the day we were born or reject the standards of God. Your role in the drama between you and your father is to be the example, the living beacon you are called to be, for him to follow.
Let's clarify something though so that, regardless of what School of Thought you subscribe to, you do not fall into the very trap of joining or creating sects of Islam such as Sunni, Shi'a, Ismaili, etc., which is clearly forbidden in the Qur'an. The religion of God is not a social organization that requires any type of ritual to join like baptism, tithing, or accepting Muhammad as your Lord and Savior as the Christians do with Jesus or the Baha'is do with Baha'u'llah. It's a Standard mankind is commanded to submit to. Only God can be a member of his "religion"! The Qur'an very seldom speaks of the "religion" of God, but what is translated erroneously as "The Religion of God" actually means "The Standard of God," the ensign that flags what we are called to be, do, and embrace. HOWEVER, the word for religion in Arabic is used in referring to the devotion of Abraham. Now, because all things are decreed by God, trust that God has His purposes for locking your father's heart at this time and for however long his heart is locked, whether we know that purpose or not.
Kindly let me know if this helps.
Uncle Nono
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Marabu, have patience and don't give away ur imaan, trust allah, he will make all things right. try to find out that wether he changed his cast with his own wish or with someone's saying. i will pray to god to show him the right path and make him muslim again. ...ameen.
just belive in allah and be patience
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Marabu, have patience and don't give away ur imaan, trust allah, he will make all things right. try to find out that wether he changed his cast with his own wish or with someone's saying. i will pray to god to show him the right path and make him muslim again. ...ameen.
just belive in allah and be patience
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Wa alaikum assalam !
Can we FORCE FAITH upon anybody? NO
2:256 Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects evil and believes in God hath grasped the most trustworthy hand- hold, that never breaks. And God heareth and knoweth all things.
And remember ONLY ALLAH IS THE JUDGE and no one else.
5:69 Those who believe (in the Qur'an), those who follow the Jewish (scriptures), and the Sabians and the Christians,- any who believe in God and the Last Day, and work righteousness,- on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.
22:17 Those who believe (in the Qur'an), those who follow the Jewish (scriptures), and the Sabians, Christians, Magians, and Polytheists,- God will judge between them on the Day of Judgment: for God is witness of all things.
Y Ai
Pray for him and leave this matter to Almighty!
Wassalam