Radha Soami..

Respected Babaji,
I m 20 yrs old girl n Radha Soami since ma childhood. My mother is initiated but not my father. I m very fed up of my family problem as there are lots of differeneces between my parents, this makes my mind divert from studies also n due to this i never want to go home to see the disputes between my parents, i m unable to find out the reason of that.It has been 15 yrs i m noticing them fighting like anything and generally without any reason.

According to my point of view i find my mother is always wrong n gets hyper very soon, but their must be any reason due to which she is getting hyper. I m unable to understand dat instead my father is helping my mother so much in order to attend the satsang of babaji n still he z not having good relation with my mother.

i tried many times to sort out the matter between them , but i couldn't. i m very tensed because i never saw them happy with each other instead babaji has given us everything to lead a comfortable life bt still no one is happy in our family..
I even send the letter at beas, but didn't got any reply from there...plzz help m .. i cant see them teasing each other any more.. the matter has reached to its saturation point,, they r nt gettng divorced just because of me and my brother's future..
Babaji as u alwayz helped me plz do something and sorry if i had written anything wrong, plz forgive me,,

My another problem is that one of my friend is astrologist and he told me that soon something very bad is going to happen in my life and i ll lose all my frieds n would face so much insult in college,,, i m very scared for this.. instead of having trust in Babaji these things sometimes debarts my mind . Please help me babaji n do something.

In satsang i hears that bhajan is the soltuion of everythng but as i m nt initated so what shld i do to remember babaji?

sry, if i had written antyng wrong in this letter..

Radha Soami.

Sister,
problems are a part of life. Have full faith in the master, nothing is out of his command. Everything comes and goes by his command. Everyone on this earth has his/her problems, but we think that only i'm going through problems. Feel lucky that u've got a true guru, a living saint. Just remember that NOTHING IS OUT OF HIS COMMAND. By his i mean the guru, the master.
And that astrology thing. Do not worry about it. Coz nothin is out of his command as i already said. BY HIS GRACE ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN. Just have full faith in him.
Regards,
your brother at his holy feet.
Nirmaljot Singh

Dear Sister,

As I read all the problems u are facing and it is really very difficult to resolve it but as u know u are also affected by it so always remember babaji when there is disputes exist between your parents.

And I am advising u can do much to change your atmoshpere.
1. U talk to your mother friendly and try to understand her. She is not a fool. She has given u birth so u should be thankful to her. Always listen her problems because your father can't understand her problem being male so she needs a person who can understand her problem and u should try to understand. Just listen her patiently.

2. There is always exist a bond between parents that are their children. So talk to your brother also and try to make their relation happy.

3. And try to concentrate on your study and leave everthing on babaji.

4. Don't trust on any astrologer's prediction as it can be true or false so u remember only babaji. Don't share this problem with anybody else and do work hard for study.


Radha swami ji

Radha soami ji,

Thankyou so much for ur reply..i do trust babaji.. plz tell me d proper way that how one cld remember babaji without being initiated..? I m suffering above problem since last 15 yrs around.. i wanted to ask that when the load of karmas of ma parents would be ovr..how one cld stay in same house widout havng any kind of interaction between dem, its really ridiculus.

I m nt much affected because i m studying outside n go home once in 3 months,, but when i see their relation with each other,I seriously don't want to stay home at all.. I really wanted to help both of them but couldn't find the way except babaji.

Further i wanted to know that, whenever i go to attend d satsang on sundays... i feel very sleepy... so , is it due to "kaal" or its ma weakness that i m not able to concentrate on satsang,, plz tell me d way to overcome dis.

I m sorry to ask but why one couldn't be initated before marraige or 25 yrs,, i wantd to get namdaan as soon as possible, I m very eager for that... plz convey ma message to babaji regarding this..
I m sry, if i hv wriiten anything wrong.

Radha Soami ji.

Radha Soami ji..

Thanku so much for u reply..i do trust babaji lot .. but after seeing so many problem in life sometimes one get frustated and wanted to knw dat when dey ll b ovr..just wanted to help ma parents because i cant see them fighting all d time,

radha soami ji...

That life get on with it,you thing your guru is interested in your home life ur WRONG,he wants ur soul .it was given to u to have and grown with and for some reason u all take a little fall and give it to him to sort out,
life is about getting tough and marching on,,CHRIST SAID AND THE MEEK SHALL INHERIET THE EARTH...GROW UP LOVE

Sry, i cldnt undrstnd wat u r tryng to say.... please explore
n further i didnt said dat babaji is intrstd in ma home life, instead i want some solution frm m.. coz i m too weak to handle all this, i want his support..

radha soami ji

Write to him at the DERA

I had already written to him but didn't got any reply,,

Dear Lady

I can only hope your life has a good plan,and that you are able to pull away.
I know they are your mum and dad and you love them both and to see and hear them unhappy is tearing you apart ,so please know that Love never hurts and your mum and dad sound as if they need to talk to a doctor and sort it out .Its so unfair for you to go through this and very SELFISH of them.
Please try and build a life for yourself as your parents are acting like OVER GROWN school children.
I will remember you in my prayers so please take my love,prayers and good will.

GOD BLESS YOU

The problem stated by you is also being faced by my friend. He is a non RSSB follower and his wife is RSSB follower. he do not want to go to satsang and his wife goes alone. He first started to go with her but later on stopped going. Whenever there is any issue between them , she behaves very childishly and stopped talking. Every time he has to request her to break silence and even for her mistakes she never says sorry. By seing such behaviour he stopped going with her to satsang.
Even he found her very lazy in house hold work, although she wake up early whenever she have to go to Bhandara.
She did not respect his parents or even him.
He also have now stopped talking with her and just say that as RSSB says that Guru is our father, then whether there father has not told them to perform there household duties and respect your in laws and husband.
He has not told them that instead of asking them to come to Beas satsang, join there guru.
It is not the case that only RSSB is single way of god teaching, there may also be better guru then him.
No one have taught them that there should not be any EGO that you have visited any bhandara or have done any sewa. But she starts fighting after coming back from Bhandara.
He has started hating even name of any religion and just say that god give her good sense as she is now beyond repair.
He has requested his family also but they are not able to understand this and just insist that boy should go with her and she will not go with them.
How baba g is teaching them, instead of becoming good relation , religion is ruining their married life.