Backhanded compliment
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A backhanded compliment, also known as a left handed compliment, or asteism is an insult
that is disguised as a compliment
. Sometimes, a backhanded compliment may be inadvertent. However, the term usually connotes an intent to belittle or condescend.
A backhanded compliment may fool the listener, but the compliment remains "backhanded" because the speaker is being intentionally slighting and insulting. In some cultures, backhanded compliments are considered a genteel or polite way of expressing disdain.
In each instance, there is an initial compliment: praising a piece of clothing, a person's intellect, a person's driving ability, or a person's looks. However, each instance also includes an implied criticism: the person's figure desperately needs improvement; the person appears unintelligent on the surface; women don't drive well, and therefore any skill at driving is noteworthy; the son's parents are unattractive.
Insult
An insult is an expression, statement which is considered degrading and offensive. Insults may be intentional or accidental...
that is disguised as a compliment
Compliment
Compliment may be* An expression of praise, congratulation or encouragement.* The correct respectful actions paid to a superior, such as saluting an officer in the armed forces.*"Compliments", a song by Bloc Party from their 2005 album Silent Alarm...
. Sometimes, a backhanded compliment may be inadvertent. However, the term usually connotes an intent to belittle or condescend.
A backhanded compliment may fool the listener, but the compliment remains "backhanded" because the speaker is being intentionally slighting and insulting. In some cultures, backhanded compliments are considered a genteel or polite way of expressing disdain.
Examples
- "That dress is lovely; it does wonders for your figure."
- "You're smarter than you look."
- "You drive very well, for a woman."
- "Your son is more handsome than I would have expected."
In each instance, there is an initial compliment: praising a piece of clothing, a person's intellect, a person's driving ability, or a person's looks. However, each instance also includes an implied criticism: the person's figure desperately needs improvement; the person appears unintelligent on the surface; women don't drive well, and therefore any skill at driving is noteworthy; the son's parents are unattractive.