Bend Over Boyfriend
Encyclopedia
B-O-B is a "wildly successful" series of sex education
videos covering the practice of a woman penetrating a man's anus with a strap-on dildo
(known as pegging
). The first of the two videos, which was released in 1998, became the best selling video to date for Good Vibrations
, a sex-toy business. The video was also featured on The Daily Show
. The videos promote the idea, as Eye Weekly
puts it, that "fucking your boyfriend in the ass is fun".
The videos star sexologist Carol Queen
, who discusses pegging and also demonstrates the practice with her lover. The videos also contain footage of other couples engaging in the practice. The porn star Chloe
appears in the second video; as she is best known as an anal queen, her use of a strap-on dildo is a "role reversal".
Dan Savage
, who popularized the term "pegging", originally offered "bob" (short for "Bend over Boyfriend") as one of two alternatives for the term. Dan Savage
was the guest on The Colbert Report on November 29th, 2010. During the interview Mr. Savage educates Mr. Colbert on the practice of pegging.
, said the tapes are instructional to a fault, saying the presentation "made anal sex seem more distasteful rather than more attractive". Queen herself said she'd been told the first video was "like watching a driving-instruction video" and the subtitle of Bend Over Boyfriend 2: Less Talkin', More Rockin attempts to address this concern.
Tristan Taormino
, writing for the Village Voice, credits the video as an archetype for a substantial cultural shift:
Taormino also went on to add that the video makers were resistant to visualizing or showing close-ups of the male ass in this video.
Sex education
Sex education refers to formal programs of instruction on a wide range of issues relating to human sexuality, including human sexual anatomy, sexual reproduction, sexual intercourse, reproductive health, emotional relations, reproductive rights and responsibilities, abstinence, contraception, and...
videos covering the practice of a woman penetrating a man's anus with a strap-on dildo
Strap-on dildo
A strap-on dildo is a dildo designed to be worn, usually with a harness, during sexual activity. Harnesses and dildos are made in a wide variety of styles, with variations in how the harness fits the wearer, how the dildo attaches to the harness, as well as various features intended to facilitate...
(known as pegging
Pegging (sexual practice)
Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on dildo. The neologism "pegging" was popularized when it became the winning entry in a contest in Dan Savage's Savage Love sex advice column, held after an observation was made that there was no common name for the...
). The first of the two videos, which was released in 1998, became the best selling video to date for Good Vibrations
Good Vibrations (business)
Good Vibrations is a sex toy business based in San Francisco. It operates five retail stores ; a mail-order business; an e-commerce website; a wholesale arm; and an erotic-video production company, . Formerly, it also operated three publishing companies: Down There Press, Passion Press and...
, a sex-toy business. The video was also featured on The Daily Show
The Daily Show
The Daily Show , is an American late night satirical television program airing each Monday through Thursday on Comedy Central. The half-hour long show premiered on July 21, 1996, and was hosted by Craig Kilborn until December 1998...
. The videos promote the idea, as Eye Weekly
Eye Weekly
Eye Weekly was a free weekly newspaper published in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. It was owned by Torstar, the parent company of the Toronto Star, and was published by their Star Media Group until its final issue on May 5, 2011. The following week, Torstar launched a successor publication, The Grid.-...
puts it, that "fucking your boyfriend in the ass is fun".
The videos star sexologist Carol Queen
Carol Queen
Carol Queen is an American author, editor, sociologist and sexologist active in the sex-positive feminism movement. Queen has written on human sexuality in books such as Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture...
, who discusses pegging and also demonstrates the practice with her lover. The videos also contain footage of other couples engaging in the practice. The porn star Chloe
Chloe (porn star)
Chloe is the stage name used by a veteran American adult film actress, nude model, script writer and director.- Early life:...
appears in the second video; as she is best known as an anal queen, her use of a strap-on dildo is a "role reversal".
Dan Savage
Dan Savage
Daniel Keenan "Dan" Savage is an American author, media pundit, journalist and newspaper editor. Savage writes the internationally syndicated relationship and sex advice column Savage Love. Its tone is frank in its discussion of sexuality, often humorous, and hostile to social conservatives, as in...
, who popularized the term "pegging", originally offered "bob" (short for "Bend over Boyfriend") as one of two alternatives for the term. Dan Savage
Dan Savage
Daniel Keenan "Dan" Savage is an American author, media pundit, journalist and newspaper editor. Savage writes the internationally syndicated relationship and sex advice column Savage Love. Its tone is frank in its discussion of sexuality, often humorous, and hostile to social conservatives, as in...
was the guest on The Colbert Report on November 29th, 2010. During the interview Mr. Savage educates Mr. Colbert on the practice of pegging.
Reception
Some reviewers, such as in the Eye WeeklyEye Weekly
Eye Weekly was a free weekly newspaper published in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. It was owned by Torstar, the parent company of the Toronto Star, and was published by their Star Media Group until its final issue on May 5, 2011. The following week, Torstar launched a successor publication, The Grid.-...
, said the tapes are instructional to a fault, saying the presentation "made anal sex seem more distasteful rather than more attractive". Queen herself said she'd been told the first video was "like watching a driving-instruction video" and the subtitle of Bend Over Boyfriend 2: Less Talkin', More Rockin attempts to address this concern.
Tristan Taormino
Tristan Taormino
Tristan Taormino is a feminist author, columnist, sex educator, activist, editor, speaker, and pornographic film director . She graduated Phi Beta Kappa with her Bachelor's degree in American Studies from Wesleyan University in 1993...
, writing for the Village Voice, credits the video as an archetype for a substantial cultural shift:
- "The roles of active initiator and penetrator are no longer solely the domain of men, nor are the qualities of receptivity and passivity for girls only. Nowhere is this more apparent than in what I identify as the Bend Over Boyfriend Archetype"
Taormino also went on to add that the video makers were resistant to visualizing or showing close-ups of the male ass in this video.
External links
Further reading
- Brietzke, Carol. (January 1999) CosmopolitanCosmopolitan (magazine)Cosmopolitan is an international magazine for women. It was first published in 1886 in the United States as a family magazine, was later transformed into a literary magazine and eventually became a women's magazine in the late 1960s...
Ecstasy. (Using mints during oral sex). Volume 226; Issue 1; Page 76. - The ScotsmanThe ScotsmanThe Scotsman is a British newspaper, published in Edinburgh.As of August 2011 it had an audited circulation of 38,423, down from about 100,000 in the 1980s....
. (January 28, 1999) BSC raises porn fears over Channel 5 shows. - PlayboyPlayboyPlayboy is an American men's magazine that features photographs of nude women as well as journalism and fiction. It was founded in Chicago in 1953 by Hugh Hefner and his associates, and funded in part by a $1,000 loan from Hefner's mother. The magazine has grown into Playboy Enterprises, Inc., with...
(February 1999) The Playboy Advisor. Volume 46; Issue 2; Page 39. - Nathan, Debbie. (April 19, 1999) The NationThe NationThe Nation is the oldest continuously published weekly magazine in the United States. The periodical, devoted to politics and culture, is self-described as "the flagship of the left." Founded on July 6, 1865, It is published by The Nation Company, L.P., at 33 Irving Place, New York City.The Nation...
Sodomy for the Masses.(sodomy illegal in many States). Volume 268; Issue 14; Page 16. - Taormino, Tristan. (March 7, 2000) The Village VoiceThe Village VoiceThe Village Voice is a free weekly newspaper and news and features website in New York City that features investigative articles, analysis of current affairs and culture, arts and music coverage, and events listings for New York City...
Bend over, boys! Volume 45; Issue 9; Page 144. - Taormino, Tristan. (May 2, 2000) The Village VoiceThe Village VoiceThe Village Voice is a free weekly newspaper and news and features website in New York City that features investigative articles, analysis of current affairs and culture, arts and music coverage, and events listings for New York City...
[Pucker up.] Volume 45; Issue 17; Page 142. - Graves, Ginny. (June 1, 2000) RedbookRedbookRedbook is an American women's magazine published by the Hearst Corporation. It is one of the "Seven Sisters", a group of women's service magazines.-History:...
5 Sexy things he's longing for you to try in bed. Volume 194; Issue 6; Page 138. - Taormino, Tristan. (December 26, 2000) The Village VoiceThe Village VoiceThe Village Voice is a free weekly newspaper and news and features website in New York City that features investigative articles, analysis of current affairs and culture, arts and music coverage, and events listings for New York City...
Nice and naughty. Volume 45; Issue 51; Page 162. - Savage, Dan. (June 22, 2001) The Portland MercuryThe Portland MercuryThe Portland Mercury is an alternative weekly newspaper published in Portland, Oregon. It serves to chronicle the ever-changing Portland music scene, and generally includes interviews, commentaries, reviews, and concert dates...
Finally, an honest election. - Hoffman, Kevin. (November 21, 2002) Scene Entertainment WeeklyCleveland SceneThe Cleveland Scene is an alternative weekly newspaper based in Cleveland, Ohio. The newspaper includes highlights of Cleveland-area arts, music, dining, and films, as well as classified advertising...
The Safety Dance: At Oberlin, even sex fests are conducted by the book. Volume 32; Issue 99. - Taormino, Tristan. (May 7, 2003) The Village VoiceThe Village VoiceThe Village Voice is a free weekly newspaper and news and features website in New York City that features investigative articles, analysis of current affairs and culture, arts and music coverage, and events listings for New York City...
The queer heterosexual. Volume 48; Issue 19; Page 141. - Cudmore, Doug. (December 14, 2003) The Toronto Star Seven ways to get on the "naughty" list. Section: Metropolis; Page 4.
- Salt Lake City WeeklySalt Lake City WeeklySalt Lake City Weekly is a free alternative weekly tabloid-paged newspaper published in Salt Lake City, Utah. It began its life as the Private Eye. City Weekly is published and dated for every Thursday by Copperfield Publishing Inc...
(March 17, 2005) Porn and Prejudice. Volume 21; Issue 43; Page 20. - Powers, Thom. (September 11, 2005) Los Angeles TimesLos Angeles TimesThe Los Angeles Times is a daily newspaper published in Los Angeles, California, since 1881. It was the second-largest metropolitan newspaper in circulation in the United States in 2008 and the fourth most widely distributed newspaper in the country....
Porn is bad for society and bad for you. Right? PornifiedPornifiedPornified: How Pornography Is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families is a 2005 book by American writer Pamela Paul, discussing the impact of ready access to pornography on Americans....
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Times Books: 306 pp., $25. Section: Book Review; Page 4. - Taormino, Tristan. (May 17, 2006) The Village VoiceThe Village VoiceThe Village Voice is a free weekly newspaper and news and features website in New York City that features investigative articles, analysis of current affairs and culture, arts and music coverage, and events listings for New York City...
The Pinky Swear: Benefits of prostate stimulation and the rise of bend-over boyfriends. Volume 51; Issue 20; Page 137. - Lynch, Janel M. (September 1, 2006) CurveCurve (magazine)Curve is a lesbian magazine in the United States. It covers news, politics, social issues, and includes celebrity interviews and stories on entertainment, pop culture, style, travel, and a website that hosts an internet forum focusing on lesbian issues, active since 2000.The magazine was first...
Nan Kinney: founder, Fatale Media. Volume 16; Issue 7; Page 63 - Moore, Candace. (March 1, 2007) CurveCurve (magazine)Curve is a lesbian magazine in the United States. It covers news, politics, social issues, and includes celebrity interviews and stories on entertainment, pop culture, style, travel, and a website that hosts an internet forum focusing on lesbian issues, active since 2000.The magazine was first...
Who makes the rules? And why are they so much fun to break? Volume 17; Issue 2; Page 66 - Savage, Dan. (August 8, 2007) Philadelphia WeeklyPhiladelphia WeeklyPhiladelphia Weekly , is an award-winning alternative newspaper in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, published every Wednesday.The paper was founded in 1971 as a sister publication to the South Philadelphia Press. In 1995, the paper became Philadelphia Weekly...
Savage Love.