Stone femme is a lesbian

Lesbian

Lesbian is a term most widely used in the English language to describe sexual and romantic desire between females. The word may be used as a noun, to refer to women who identify themselves or who are characterized by others as having the primary attribute of female homosexuality, or as an...

 identity

Sexual orientation identity

Sexual orientation identity describes how persons identify their own sexuality. In addition, they may choose not to identify their sexual orientation, or dis-identify with a sexual orientation.This may or may not relate to their actual sexual orientation...

 whose name was patterned after the more widely-known term stone butch

Stone butch

A stone butch is a woman who is strongly masculine in character and dress, who tops her partners sexually , and who does not wish to be touched genitally. Not all stone butches identify in female terms, some are known to identify with male pronouns, and many stone butches do not identify themselves...

. Identification with the term is not necessarily dependent upon the stone femme's physical appearance or gender expression

Gender

Gender is a range of characteristics used to distinguish between males and females, particularly in the cases of men and women and the masculine and feminine attributes assigned to them. Depending on the context, the discriminating characteristics vary from sex to social role to gender identity...

, or upon the identity of the stone femme's partner.

Meanings

Stone femme has many different meanings:

• a femme
  Butch and femme
  Butch and femme are LGBT terms describing respectively, masculine and feminine traits, behavior, style, expression, self-perception and so on. They are often used in the lesbian, bisexual and gay subcultures...
  
   who is the bottom in sexual interactions
• a femme who is attracted to or partnered with masculine or stone butches; who does not wish to sexually touch her partners' genitals
• an exceptionally femme femme
• a femme who is sexually stone and therefore does not wish to be touched in the genital area; often sexually Top in sexual interactions.

Relationship to sexual and gender identity

Some people use the term 'stone femme' to describe their identity in regards to their sexual identity

Sexual identity

Sexual identity is a term that, like sex, has two distinctively different meanings. One describes an identity roughly based on sexual orientation, the other an identity based on sexual characteristics, which is not socially based but based on biology, a concept related to, but different from,...

 or gender identity

Gender identity

A gender identity is the way in which an individual self-identifies with a gender category, for example, as being either a man or a woman, or in some cases being neither, which can be distinct from biological sex. Basic gender identity is usually formed by age three and is extremely difficult to...

, their boundaries regarding the expression of either, or their sexual boundaries. Some stone femmes identify as queer

Queer

Queer is an umbrella term for sexual minorities that are not heterosexual, heteronormative, or gender-binary. In the context of Western identity politics the term also acts as a label setting queer-identifying people apart from discourse, ideologies, and lifestyles that typify mainstream LGBT ...

, as dykes, and/or as lesbians or bisexuals. Others do not identify as lesbian

Lesbian

Lesbian is a term most widely used in the English language to describe sexual and romantic desire between females. The word may be used as a noun, to refer to women who identify themselves or who are characterized by others as having the primary attribute of female homosexuality, or as an...

s due to the disconnect between the political and sexual connotations of the word and the reality of their experiences.