Tie and tease
Encyclopedia
Tie and tease refers to the BDSM
sexual activity that involves tying up a partner and bringing him or her to a heightened state of sexual arousal
but controlling whether and when to allow them to orgasm
, which might or might not be decided in advance. If the tied partner is eventually allowed to orgasm it is referred to as orgasm control
and if orgasm is denied it is erotic sexual denial
or tease and denial
.
The tied up partner is sexually stimulated
to the pre-climax stage but not allowed to orgasm, or maybe being allowed to orgasm at the end of the activity. Depending on the choices of the people involved, the tied up partner may be allowed an orgasm after a while, or the experience might end in frustration, without any orgasm at all—that is sometimes called "tease and denial
". Any form of tying or bondage
may be used, but it is classically practised with a spreadeagle
tie to a four poster bed
. This is often the first area couples explore after experimenting with bondage since it combines pleasure with some form of power play. It may or may not be an entrée to more painful play such as pinching and ice cubes. Interestingly, negotiation
in BDSM
usually focuses on what will or won't be done and not on the emotion. Tie and tease is inherently a psychological activity as well as a physical one.
Often, the bound person will be gagged
so as to increase their sense of helplessness. They may also be blindfold
ed for the same reason, or not blindfolded so that they can see their teaser being provocative by for example dressing in lingerie
or having sex with a third person. There may be an intimate examination
.
, or prolonged erection
, lasting several hours, can be damaging to the penis
. Extended tie and tease activities may be affected by this.
BDSM
BDSM is an erotic preference and a form of sexual expression involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play. The compound acronym BDSM is derived from the terms bondage and discipline , dominance and submission , and sadism and masochism...
sexual activity that involves tying up a partner and bringing him or her to a heightened state of sexual arousal
Sexual arousal
Sexual arousal, or sexual excitement, is the arousal of sexual desire, during or in anticipation of sexual activity. Things that precipitate human sexual arousal are called erotic stimuli, or colloquially known as turn-ons. There are many potential stimuli, both physical or mental, which can cause...
but controlling whether and when to allow them to orgasm
Orgasm
Orgasm is the peak of the plateau phase of the sexual response cycle, characterized by an intense sensation of pleasure...
, which might or might not be decided in advance. If the tied partner is eventually allowed to orgasm it is referred to as orgasm control
Orgasm control
Orgasm control, also known as "edging", "peaking", "surfing", and by other terms, is a sexual technique which involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching orgasm, although orgasm can be reached eventually. If orgasm is not reached after...
and if orgasm is denied it is erotic sexual denial
Erotic sexual denial
Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice in which a heightened state of sexual arousal is maintained for an extended length of time without orgasm, and is commonly practiced in association with BDSM and sexual bondage. Erotic sexual denial can be another name for or...
or tease and denial
Tease and denial
Tease and denial is a general term used to describe any technique that involves the sexual stimulation of a person to cause intense arousal without climax...
.
The tied up partner is sexually stimulated
Sexual stimulation
Sexual stimulation is any stimulus that leads to, enhances and maintains sexual arousal, and may lead to ejaculation and/or orgasm...
to the pre-climax stage but not allowed to orgasm, or maybe being allowed to orgasm at the end of the activity. Depending on the choices of the people involved, the tied up partner may be allowed an orgasm after a while, or the experience might end in frustration, without any orgasm at all—that is sometimes called "tease and denial
Tease and denial
Tease and denial is a general term used to describe any technique that involves the sexual stimulation of a person to cause intense arousal without climax...
". Any form of tying or bondage
Bondage (BDSM)
Bondage is the use of restraints for the sexual pleasure of the parties involved. It may be used in its own right, as in the case of rope bondage and breast bondage, or as part of sexual activity or BDSM activity.- Private bondage :...
may be used, but it is classically practised with a spreadeagle
Spreadeagle (position)
The spread eagle is the position in which a person has his or her arms outstretched and legs apart, figuratively resembling an eagle with wings spread. It is a style that appears commonly in nature and geometry. In human style it is represented by the letter "X".A spreadeagle is a common position...
tie to a four poster bed
Four poster bed
A four-poster bed is a bed with four vertical columns, one in each corner, that support a tester, or upper panel. There are a number of antique four-poster beds extant dating to the 16th century and earlier; many of these early beds are highly ornate and are made from oak...
. This is often the first area couples explore after experimenting with bondage since it combines pleasure with some form of power play. It may or may not be an entrée to more painful play such as pinching and ice cubes. Interestingly, negotiation
Negotiation (BDSM)
In the BDSM community, negotiation is a form of communication where participants make arrangements on each others' requirements, responsibilities, and limits to find the best possible agreement....
in BDSM
BDSM
BDSM is an erotic preference and a form of sexual expression involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play. The compound acronym BDSM is derived from the terms bondage and discipline , dominance and submission , and sadism and masochism...
usually focuses on what will or won't be done and not on the emotion. Tie and tease is inherently a psychological activity as well as a physical one.
Often, the bound person will be gagged
Gag (BDSM)
A gag is sometimes worn during some bondage and BDSM roleplays. Gags are usually associated with roleplays involving bondage, but that is not necessarily the case. The person who wears the gag is regarded as the submissive partner, while the one not wearing one is regarded as the dominant...
so as to increase their sense of helplessness. They may also be blindfold
Blindfold
A blindfold is a garment, usually of cloth, tied to one's head to cover the eyes to disable the wearer's sight. It can be worn when the eyes are in a closed state and thus prevents the wearer from opening them...
ed for the same reason, or not blindfolded so that they can see their teaser being provocative by for example dressing in lingerie
Lingerie
Lingerie are fashionable and possibly alluring undergarments.Lingerie usually incorporates one or more flexible, stretchy materials like Lycra, nylon , polyester, satin, lace, silk and sheer fabric which are not typically used in more functional, basic cotton undergarments.The term in the French...
or having sex with a third person. There may be an intimate examination
Intimate examination
An intimate examination is a physical examination for medical purposes that includes examination of female breasts, the genitalia, or the rectum of a patient. Such examinations can cause patients stress or embarrassment...
.
Safety
PriapismPriapism
Priapism is a potentially harmful and painful medical condition in which the erect penis or clitoris does not return to its flaccid state, despite the absence of both physical and psychological stimulation, within four hours. There are two types of priapism: low-flow and high-flow. Low-flow...
, or prolonged erection
Erection
Penile erection is a physiological phenomenon where the penis becomes enlarged and firm. Penile erection is the result of a complex interaction of psychological, neural, vascular and endocrine factors, and is usually, though not exclusively, associated with sexual arousal...
, lasting several hours, can be damaging to the penis
Penis
The penis is a biological feature of male animals including both vertebrates and invertebrates...
. Extended tie and tease activities may be affected by this.